Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Am I With The Right Partner?


During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO..

Monday, January 07, 2013

Les Miserables

Stepped into JCube for the first time. 
Viewed their ice skating ring & was tempted to skate. Unfortunately, I have not learnt how to. HAHA! How I wish I am able to skate like them one day. 

Tried Pique Nique for the first time as well with Jaslin. 
Had Roast Chicken Caesar Salad, Farmer's Omelette & Ice-cream waffles. All the them tasted great! The ice-cream waffle was definitely "DA BOMBZ!" 
Overall satisfaction: 90% 

Caught a movie, Les Miserables at 6.10pm. 

Best movie in 2013! ♥
This is one, which you cannot miss! Please go catch it if you have not. 
I rate it 10/10! 

Till now, this song is still stuck in my head. 

Saturday, January 05, 2013

2013 !

Time flies & it has reached 2013!
Happy New Year everyone!
I know I'm 5 days late but anyway, for this year, I've new sets of new year resolution.

1) Happiness (2012 has been a tough year for me)
2) Graduate on time & pray that the school management would stop delaying my modules
3) Be healthy!
4) Get my driving license (It's been delaying for way toooo long!)
5) Save more $
6) Learn how to say "NO"! HAHAHA! :P

Not going to plan that much for this year. As long as I get to achieve these 6, I'm happy! (:
New year, new challenges faced.

With this mentioned, I would like to add point 7 as well. BE STRONGER! :D